Tips for getting divorced

Here are some helpful tips for working with my office.

ATTENTION REQUIRED: Carefully review everything received from this office and thoroughly go over every document that needs your completion. Many required forms come with fine details that need documentation. It's much more expensive and time-consuming to redo them, so it's better to complete them as thoroughly as possible from the start.

ASSIGNMENT: Treat your divorce case as a part-time job or a homework assignment. Though it might be difficult to face, it's crucial to your case. The more prepared you are in the beginning, the less work will be required later on. You don't want to miss a favorable settlement opportunity due to lack of necessary information or documentation to resolve all issues.

NO LAST-MINUTE RUSH: Remember, "your lack of preparation does not constitute an emergency on my part". Don't postpone addressing potential issues, whether it's selling the house or arranging vacations with the children. Courts aren't available 24/7, and it's impossible for me to hastily put together a motion for court consideration at 4:45 p.m. on a Friday.

DOCUMENT EVERYTHING: From the day of separation onward, it's crucial to keep all records, such as credit card statements, investment/retirement account statements, tax returns, earnings statements, and documents regarding property purchases (homes, vehicles), and gift notes from a spouse or relatives. Also keep health and other insurance information (life, vehicle). If unsure about what to keep, just ask – it might be important.

AVOID RUMOR MILL: You may come across hearsay about someone who managed to dodge spousal support or secured a house at a steal. Remember, every case is unique, and there's usually more to the story. Take these anecdotes with a grain of salt.

EX-PARTNER ADVICE: Don't expect your soon-to-be-ex's behavior to improve during the divorce proceedings. While it's natural to hope for the best, be wary of their claims, especially if they seem designed to pressure you into settling. Major threats often involve children and/or support payments. Rely on the advice of your legal counsel, not your ex.

COMPLY WITH RULINGS: Court orders aren't suggestions; they must be adhered to. Regardless of your opinion on the judge's decision, it's important to abide by all rulings. The judge overseeing your case will likely be involved until its conclusion, including any post-divorce modifications. Your history of compliance will significantly influence the judge's willingness to listen to you and potentially decide in your favor.